Stop second guessing yourself!

“Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions.” ~Unknown

We second guess ourselves because we feel responsible for the changes that are related to that one decision. As if we have complete control over the outcomes of all our choices.

I am sure there have been times when you’ve made the “right” decision and things didn’t turn out how you wanted them to anyway.

We’ve been conditioned to seeing anything negative as a bad thing. We’re allergic to discomfort, distress, setting boundaries and disapproval.

So, we often make decisions laced with poor self-esteem and people pleasing – hardly fertile ground for your growth and development as a person.

Repeat after me: “It is impossible to live a life that is completely free from mistakes and regrets.”

This isn’t a license to free you from making hard decisions.

It’s a hard sentence to say – but I encourage you to say it. Free yourself from being perfect and right all the time. Perfection is a tough taskmaster.

Trust yourself, trust your decision-making process and deal with the outcome (good or not so good) with resilience and grace. You are an evolving being – always learning. Always changing.

Give yourself a break.

After all, all those perfect people you are looking to impress have made wrong decisions too……and yet here you are looking up to them – warts and all.

Isn’t it time you give yourself some credit and stick with your decisions?


  • Place a few drops of your favourite essential oil blend in your difffuser or burner.
  • Find a quiet spot where you can be still and quiet for 1 - 2 minutes so you can calm your thoughts. 
  • Pick a fresh page in your journal.
  • Draw a line down the middle.
  • On one side, write down 2 – 3 times when you second guessed yourself and what the outcome was.
  • One the other side, write down what you learnt from making that decision.

    Keep doing this exercise once in a while and you will start to learn where you can trust yourself – and where you need to seek wise counsel.